DEAR MISS MANNERS: I am the relative and legal guardian of a woman who was born severely disabled. Now middle-aged, she still has the mentality of a toddler. I promised her and myself, when we were children, that I would take care of her (for reasons that are not relevant here).

The problem? All kinds of people, who probably mean well, keep telling me what a great person I am for taking care of her, how wonderful of me, how selfless I am, etc.

Miss Manners, I am none of these things. I take care of her because ... she needs someone to take care of her. Period. Why praise me for doing something that needs to be done? What would be the alternative, in their eyes? Have they no loved ones?

The adulations are getting nauseating. Family members, friends and health care workers have all said something along those lines at this point. What do they expect me to say in response? “Yes, I know”? That sounds self-congratulatory.

When people praise me like this, what I hear is: “I’m so glad I’m not in your shoes. I would never give up my life to do something like this.”

Sorry for going on and on. What do I say, in a “Miss Manners” way, to people who keep saying things like this?

GENTLE READER: “I’m sure you would do the same. Any feeling person would.”

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