If you can't find a therapist in your area, there are online options available. Getty Images.

This column originally ran in 2021.

Dear Annie: I enjoy and benefit from your advice, but you often recommend seeing a therapist or counselor. I have tried in my area and been turned down or unable to find the right sort of help. There was even an article in The New York Times about the unavailability of therapists. What do you recommend for those of us who can’t find therapists? -- Searching

Dear Searching: I’d heard, anecdotally, of friends and family having trouble finding mental health care providers this year, but I had no idea it was such a widespread issue until I read the article that you referenced. I know that contacting a therapist is in itself a big step for some people -- which makes it especially frustrating that many are being turned away. But I encourage you to keep trying.

Ask your physician for referrals. If you call an office and find that they’re not taking new patients, ask if they know anyone who is.

Check the database at www.psychologytoday.com/us. If you strike out with all therapists in your area, widen your search to those who are based elsewhere but offering virtual appointments. Then there are also online-only platforms such as MDLive, Talkspace and BetterHelp.

Additionally, support groups can also be immensely helpful, depending on your situation. There are support groups for grief, addiction, codependency, toxic family relationships and more. Call the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Hotline at 800-662-4357 for referrals to specific groups and other resources.

Finally, put in place some basic self-care practices to promote mental health. Keep a journal. Try to meditate each day. (Smartphone apps such as Headspace, Calm and Insight Timer can help.) If you’re a person of faith, make a point of praying daily, as this can be therapeutic, too. Open up to a friend about what you’re going through. These aren’t replacements for therapy, but they can help in the immediate term.

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